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Sabrina Gauer

Faith, Life & The Journey

What NOT to Say to Someone Dealing with Chronic Illness

“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22

This has been a rollercoaster month.

Healing cancer naturally has been nothing like I anticipated. After all my research, following instructions and advice of others who are healing their bodies too, and holding on to hope against all odds, I sincerely thought my journey would be different. Less painful or stressful somehow. Boy, was I ever wrong! But through all the ups and downs, one thing has remained the same: God’s faithfulness.

However, throughout the past seven months, there have been a lot of well-meaning people who just don’t “get” what I’m going through. Like, AT ALL. I’ve been very surprised and disappointed with the reactions, the comments, the questions that seemingly lack a filter. I want to just throw my hands up sometimes and yell, “Would you want ME to say these things to you if YOU were going through a similar situation?!”

Disclaimer: this post may sound a little sharp or snarky, so I apologize in advance for offending anyone — however, this is real life, and I’m the actual cancer patient who’s been fielding these questions and statements.

So, without further ado, what NOT to say to someone dealing with cancer or chronic illness:

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Healing Isn’t Particularly Beautiful

“All who have been graciously, sovereignly, compassionately touched by the Savior and received the healing blood of his cross, we can see. Yes we all, like this guy from Bethsaida, have some blurriness of sight. But, don’t look away discouraged. See the Savior touch again. See him dip his finger in the great ocean of his blood and reapply. We are seeing better. We are loving more. This is due to the Savior’s powerful and gracious compassion.” — Erik Raymond

Jesus’ ministry here on earth in human form was short (around 33ish years, to be exact). But a major part of that ministry was physical healing. These miracles weren’t identical — He didn’t have “one perfect way” of healing a person. Just as we are all individuals, His miracles were exactly what that person needed at the exact time and in the exact way they needed it.

There was a blind man who Jesus led away from the crowds, spit in his eyes, laid hands on him, and then asked him if he could see. At first, his sight was blurry, so Jesus laid hands on him again — and his sight was completely restored!

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Sit Down, Be Humble

“He led you through the vast and dreadful wilderness, that thirsty and waterless land, with its venomous snakes and scorpions. He brought you water out of hard rock. He gave you manna to eat in the wilderness, something your ancestors had never known, to humble and test you so that in the end it might go well with you.” – Deuteronomy 8:15-16

Let’s talk about humility, shall we?

Of all the lessons I’ve opened myself to learning over the past six months (yes, wow. Six months since I first felt something was wrong again with my tongue and was experiencing pain again…time does surely fly!), I have this sense of being humbled on many, many levels.

Don’t get me wrong — my first surgery that removed half of my tongue and 10-days of hospital living was also very, very humbling physically and emotionally.

But this time around, it’s been a different sort of humble. The pride that I took in being back at work, pristine organization of my room and staying on top of household chores (I’m 99% sure I have some OCD), being able to sing and play guitar again, getting my health coaching certification and expanding my knowledge of holistic wellness, showing my strength despite the horrendous setbacks over the past few years, feeling like I had some semblance of control again…

This time around, all of that has been stripped away for a while.

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